To learn drums you’ve got to read music! I use a few really good books which cover a lot of styles and techniques with hundreds of examples of beats and fills.

The Rockschool drum syllabus is excellent, especially ‘Hot Rock’. Trinity now have a fine syllabus with many classic songs. Rockschool’s 2018 GBD syllabus lloks very promising.

Playing along to a backing track is as close as you can get to playing with a band. Drum notation is actually pretty simple and there is a wealth of published material available.